An astronaut is probably the most difficult job to land on the planet. Of tens of thousands of applications, NASA selects roughly half a dozen each decade. The application process is rigorous and highly demanding. You have to be a total badass to qualify.
Lisa Nowak qualified. She had a masters degree in aeronautical engineering and had studied postgraduate astrophysics at the U.S. Naval Academy. She flew air missions for the U.S. Navy in the Pacific for over five years. And in 1996, she was one of the fortunate few to be selected to become an astronaut.
Clearly, she was a smart lady. But in 2007, after discovering that her lover was seeing another woman, Lisa drove 15 hours straight from Houston to Orlando, in order to confront her boyfriend’s new squeeze in an airport parking lot. Lisa packed zip ties, pepper spray, and large garbage bags and had some vague-but-not-really-thought-through plan to kidnap the woman. But before she could even get the woman out of her car, Lisa had an emotional breakdown, resulting in her quickly being arrested.
𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘆 𝗦𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗰𝗲: 𝗠𝗮𝗿𝗸 𝗠𝗮𝗻𝘀𝗼𝗻
Emotional intelligence is a concept researchers came up with to explain why intelligent people like Lisa often do really, really stupid things.
It is the ability to comprehend, control, and develop one’s feelings, while also being able to understand and manage others’ feelings.
Here are some benefits why this important skill is highly needed in the workplace and life in general:
- Effective Team Work.
Teams whose members are emotionally intelligence are great communicators. They trust and value each others opinions.
- Ability to Handle Tough Conversations.
People with high EQ are able to have honest and difficult discussions with others because they have a handle on their emotions.
- Ability to Deal with Change.
One thing that is inevitable is change. Not many people can handle it. An emotionally intelligent person will tend to have a more positive outlook about the change.
So,how do you know if you are emotionally intelligent? Here are three ways;:
- How do you relate with an angry colleague(s)? Do you pretend it’s not happening or, worse still, criticise & tell them to “snap out of it”?
- Do you listen to other people’s opinions or you’re just concerned about want you think?
- Do people express themselves freely when they are around you?
As personalities differ from person to person, the importance of emotional intelligence in the workplace cannot be overemphasized.
Here is how you improve your Emotional Intelligence?
- Become more self aware. Pay attention to how you feel and notice how it contributes to your decisions.
- Practice self-regulation. Find ways to deal with stress.
- Improve your social skills. Listen actively and attentively.
- Become more empathetic. Pay attention to other people’s feelings.
- Maintain a positive and optimistic attitude.
Emotional intelligence is an essential people skill. It allows you to quickly build trust with people, as well as a rapport.